I formally request a Chromat family picture (in sketch personifications, obviously) when the timing is appropriate.
Haha sure thing Fear! ;D I just finished doing something big so I doodled this up:
I guess since you asked for a drawing of me and the family, I can say a few things about them.
My mom and dad are very stereotypically feminine and masculine (in that order), and are polar opposites in personality. They both have short fuses. Dad is a venture capitalist and is often away from home, gone overseas for several months at a time, and mom is a school teacher.
My (younger) brother is talkative and is socially faster than I am, and loves watching anime. I think he likes cute little girls or something. He’s in college studying Interactive Media.
Small question- if you see someone showing many signs of being an abuser, is it alright to warn others of what they have done, using direct lines/proof of what was said, even if the so called abuser will get angry knowing their conversation was spread, believing they are not abusive?
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
i was right, she doesnt give a shit about me she doesnt deserve me anyway im so much better than her in so many ways
my words up till now will not stick with her, i know this but i hope anyways that for others, she will realize and change her childish/immature, selfish ways and actually try to be better. for now, im so sad i wasted so much time with this heartless jerk give it a couple days, i’ll be happy shes out of my life
I feel intensely sad about this decision I have delayed for long enough. But…it’s for the best, I believe..
Knowing what I know…
I’m also somewhat infuriated. She’s so toxic and I have reason to believe she knows very well from her “sneaky” manners, but does what she does anyways..
I can’t believe what I know but it’s the truth..I hope the best for her despite that..I now fear for those around her..I want to say who it is and clearly warn people..
I fear for my friends..
I fear the path ahead of me
super-stardust said: I’ve had to do that to a few ‘friends’ recently, its a healthy process. If they’re gonna be selfish and immature, then don’t bother with them because they’re not worth your time :[
I saw on FB yeah, i’m truly sorry that you’ve had to deal with them. 8( you know who this person is, we met because of them. aha. But yeah, they truly are as much as i hate to say it. ive almost done this before a month or two ago, cause i thought that they cared for us, but ..finally after being told over and over by others, plus one new word, i have truly realized they they only care for what we do for them, to make them happy, even at the cost of our own happiness. so…yeah, definitely not worth my time anymore, theres not enough time already and ive given too much of it away for them.8( i will not be used anymore, i am no pet/toy
@lurkeriatipsos said: idk what’s going on, but i am always up for giving u cyber-hugs & recommending good hurt/comfort smutfics to get u thru hard times *hug*
i’ll be fine, i just worry for my friends now.. ;v; thank you *huggg*
@bibliosaurusrex said: yeah, i’ve had situations like that before. it’s really hard because you care about them so much, but you have to take care of yourself first. you’re doing the right thing, getting out of it.
true that, ive been told that so much but i didnt listen, i really wanted to stick together- but i know my place in their book, sadly. i will do my best to take care of myself now. maybe ill get the energy to go work out once in school, its paid for after all. plus studying, i need to do that. somehow i’ll push myself and it will probably be easier without her wanting me to constantly be around. time for myself.